I have a love/hate relationship with my yoga teacher. She is so sweet and cute. She speaks fluent Zen. She practically floats from inner-peace.
Yesterday, in her serene "Rock-a-bye Baby" sing-song tone, she asked us to hold a lunge, for what seemed like 103 minutes, while twisting our bodies in the opposite direction that a human is meant to be bent, sweat dripping off our noses, balancing on the tip of our right big toe while 'smiling with our eyes.'
And right when I was about to give up, yell profanities at her, or try to start her on fire with my retinas, she said:
If this seems really hard... it's because it is.
Immediately, I felt relief. I held the pose and relaxed into the fact that it was just hard. And it was supposed to be hard. I thought it was so interesting that I thought I couldn't hold the pose for one more second and that I was willing to walk away and give up.
Until I knew that it was supposed to be hard.
And with that knowledge, I was able to keep going.
How many times do we give up because we think it's supposed to be easy? We think we must be doing it wrong since it's so hard for us. We think that it must be easier for other people.
So many of us, think that inner-work should be easy. We think we should feel better immediately. That once we question a thought, we should be set free. Forever.
We think that there's a finish line. And we already crossed it.
We think that we should be better than we are.
We think that it shouldn't be so difficult to change our spending habits, our earning beliefs, or our self-worth issues.
We think that we should be able to learn something once, and have it mastered. That it shouldn't take so much effort or practice.
What I really want you to know:
This work is hard.
This work that we do together is not for the mamby-pambies. It's not for the people who want to be spoon fed. It's not for the people who want to be saved by a fairy-tale fantasy.
Mastering money seems hard. Because it is.
This work is for bad-ass people who are willing to look their worst fears in the eye and say, "Bring it."
This work is for the people who are willing to stick it out. People who are willing to face themselves and their beliefs. People who are willing to rock their world, dissolve their identity, to give up life as they know it.
People who are willing to walk out into the unknown and have an adventure.
In search for their own peace of mind.
People who want to change. And are willing to do the hard work.
This work is for the leaders. The brave ones. The go-getters.
This work is for people.