I'm not sure if I've made this clear yet.
But, I'm pretty stubborn.
I don't learn my lessons quickly.
I typically like to wait until I'm completely debilitated by some type of self-induced stress-related illness.
(Read: kidney infection that could have completely been avoided by maintaining my body by drinking a readily available liquid known as water.)
Or until the aftermath of a really dramatic emotional breakdown.
(Read: the horror of seeing how puffy my eyes are after crying. My own vanity usually sets me straight immediately.)
Or until I've received an e-vite to my own intervention.
(Read: Requesting a larger recycling bin from the garbage company to hide the extreme quantities of empty wine bottles exiting my kitchen door.)
So, it shouldn't surprise you that I'm not quick to ask for help.
In fact, I avoid asking for help.
Like I avoid decaf.
(Read: A very painful and debilitating poison that renders a perfectly beautiful drink ugly and useless.)
My daughter has this same red-headed independence-issue.
One of her very first sentences was: "I do it."
Getting dressed: I do it.
Eating: I do it.
Pushing a stoller: I do it.
Which takes me to yesterday.
Rummaging through my head looking for solutions.
Trying to figure out how I can do more.
I caught myself staring at my living-room wall in a sort of catatonic trance.
(This happens when I am overwhelmed. I either completely shut-down. Or turn to Pinterest. Neither are very productive.)
And suddenly I saw the irony of the situation.
Here I am a "Coach."
Yet, I'm so friggin stubborn that I'm trying to be the entire Team.
I've stopped being the Coach. And instead I'm trying to be all of the Players.
I'm not asking for help.
I'm not making time to train people to help me.
I'm not allowing people to help me.
I'm not being a coach.
I'm being a moron.
I'm acting like a toddler saying: I do it.
When I really can't.
The truth is: I can't do it all.
Because I'm not supposed to.
I know I'm not the only one who does this.
We get so many accolades for being super-heroes.
We set impossible standards for ourselves and completely burn ourselves out trying to achieve them.
But we need to remember:
Asking for help doesn't make us weak.
It makes us strong.
Sometimes we are a player.
Sometimes we are the coach.
But, to be successful we always need the entire team.