You might already know this, but I'm going to say it again.
I'm a judgmental person.
I can be all high and mighty when it comes to self-help and personal leadership skills. I have seen thousands of cases first-hand and have a pretty good idea about what works and what doesn't work. I'm constantly searching for new and better tools to help people live the life that they want to live.
And, I don't think there's any tool that has been more disgraced by pop-culture-meets-New-Age than the Law of Attraction (LOA for those in the know).
Law of Attraction, in basic terms, is "like attracts like."
When taught poorly, LOA is about as effective as whispering in Santa's ear at your local mall. The watered down version of this tool sounds something like "Put a picture of a red car on your fridge and you'll get a red car." Which is total crap. That's just not how it works.
If you take the time to really understand it, the Law of Attraction is an incredibly powerful tool. It can profoundly change your life. It can help you create success, find love, be healthy or anything else that you might want.
The key to the Law of Attraction is understanding emotion. Many people mistakenly believe that LOA is based on thought. They think they are supposed to think certain thoughts so that they can create what they want.
LOA doesn't work like that. It's not about magical thinking. It is about emotion. Not thought.
Your body resonates emotion. Emotion is a vibration that emanates from your body. Think of a tuning fork tuned to a certain pitch. Your body does the same thing when it is resonating at a specific emotion. Sadness is a different "tone" than anger or happines. These frequencies resonate with "like" frequencies. Just like tuning forks that are tuned to the same pitch resonate with each other.
So, to be able to "attract like" or "attract what you want" you've got to be able to tune your tuning fork into what you're wanting to resonate with.
In other words you've got to be able to tune your emotions to the frequency that you're wanting to resonate at.
Here are 3 new dependable ways to help you attract what you're wanting by quickly and easily changing your resonating emotion.
Prayer is deliberate thought that creates miracles. The shift in thought between normal thinking and prayer holds infinite power. It changes your emotional state instantly because it puts your ego aside and allows you to hand over your sense of control. It helps you move from ego to humility. It raises your resonance from fear to faith. It brings reverence to what you're asking for. It reminds you that you are part of the sacred. It's a discussion with the Universe, the Divine, God. Whatever you want to call it, prayer is the process of speaking what you want. Of getting clear on what you're asking and it's the first step in your understanding that life isn't completely in your control.
2. Join Forces
In Eat Pray Love by Elizabeth Gilbert, there is a beautiful passage where she creates an invisible petition for what she wants and starts listing people (dead and alive) that would sign her petition. It's a powerful testament to the idea that we are not alone in wanting what we want. And this is an exercise that I suggest for anyone who really wants something - especially if they feel isolated or alone in the wanting of it.
Whether you are wanting success, health, or love, there are countless people who want the same for you. Your task is to join forces with them. Join the team that wants what you want. See your desires as benefitting the greater good. List the people dead, alive, known and unknown that would want what you want. What may start as feeling isolated or alone begins to feel powerful, connected, and supported. Witness that miracle happen within you. Feel the support and connection of your amassed army. And join that force.
This is the one that I'm the worst at. I like to think I have control. I like my fancy illusion of micro-managing, powering-through and making things happen. But, the world just doesn't work like that. God doesn't work like that. Nature doesn't work like that. Hell, my 9-month-old Golden Retriever doesn't work like that. Life doesn't happen on my time table according to my plan. And for the things that I have really wanted in my life... I have had to surrender and hand it over.
As David Whyte says, "Your great mistake is to act the drama as if you were alone."
Surrender means to understand your place in things. To do what you can do and to trust that life will handle the rest. It means to allow for help. To become part of a team. Whether it is with nature, other human beings or with the Divine.
Surrendering is an incredibly quick and powerful shift of emotion because it requires that you drop your resistance and hand over your trust to something bigger than you.