I am not a fan of New Year's Resolutions.
I said it.
And, this declaration might get me kicked out of the Life Coach Club. But hear me out.
New Years is a rite of passage. It's a time where we reflect on where we've been. Where we are. And where we are going. It is an incredibly important time for self-awareness. For self-development. For creativity.
But unfortunately, New Years has become synonymous with resolutions. And most of us don't set actual resolutions. We, instead, create laundry lists of grievances toward ourselves and think that this list will have the magical power to change us.
A true resolution isn't: I hope.
It's: I will.
It's a definite decision. Deciding that we want something enough to follow through with the actions to get it.
So instead of creating something to measure our self-loathing, let's skip the New Years Resolutions and have a little fun instead.
"There is always a step small enough from where we are to get us to where we want to be. If we take that small step, there is always another we can take, and eventually a goal thought to be too far to reach becomes achievable." Ellen Langer
So my invitation to you is to consider placing your attention toward taking a few small steps toward framing the upcoming year in a meaningful way.
10 Small Things for a Better 2016
1. Choose one word that symbolizes where you have been, the quality that you are most proud of. A word that embodies your journey to this moment.
Surrender. This past year has been one huge Surrender Experiment and has tested my faith in myself, in my work and in my creativity. There have been moments of intense fear and wicked bouts of self-doubt. But looking back, I can also see that this past year was a walk of faith, a practice of surrender and an resolute commitment to serve.
2. Choose one word that symbolizes what you are currently practicing or working on. A quality that you are reaching for right now.
Miracles. My current practice is to be conscious of the miracles that constantly surround me and unfold in front of me. Einstein said, 'There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.' I choose the latter.
3. Choose one word that symbolizes who you will become this year. The quality that embodies your journey forward. The word for your future.
Dharma. Each of us feels some aspect of the world’s suffering acutely. It tears at our hearts. Others don’t see it or don’t care. But we feel it. And we pay attention. We must act. This little corner of the world is ours to transform. This little corner of the world is ours to save.
4. Pick one location that you will actually visit this year. This place can symbolize the places that your journey this year.
My favorite type of travel includes yoga and a gorgeous setting. Wanderlust, Squaw Valley, CA.
5. Pick one activity that symbolizes the actions that you will take this year. The things that you will do.
I picked two: Hiking and Yoga.
6. Pick one person who inspires you and one thing about them that you can emulate.
Isabelle, my daughter. She’s beautiful and thoughtful and has a wide open heart. Creativity flows out of her in song, love and lyric. My work requires an enormous amount of creative energy, and I have gotten in a habit of limiting my creativity to work-related efforts. This year, I aspire to let my creativity flow through my day in every direction.
7. Pick one food/drink that symbolizes health.
I have to pick two: green smoothie and herbal tea. This loooong time coffee lover gave up caffeine last year. It was a hard one to kick, but so necessary.
8. Pick one word/image that symbolizes emotional/spiritual health.
Namaste. Hands together in prayer.
9. Pick one quote that speaks to you for the upcoming year.
For I have learned that every heart gets what it prays for. ~Hafiz
10. What beautiful question can you ask yourself to shape your day?
My guiding question for years was: "What's going to be fun today?" Now... I hate to admit... it's more like: "What shit needs to get done?"
I've been really thinking about where I get off-path with my own work. It seems to always come back to faith and surrender. I'm thinking that my questions need to incorporate those ideas - or maybe the counterparts to that: miracles and blessing.
My beautiful question for this year: What miracle is going to happen today?
Now take your answers and find some inspiring pictures and create a collage. Have fun with this.