Self-preservation is a basic animal instinct. The instinct to stay alive, to stay safe, to stay fed. “Survival mode” happens when you have a dysfunctional relationship to this instinct.Read More
The questions you ask yourself hold power. Choose good ones.Read More
My early attempts at money sobriety were all about control. Controlling what I spent. Controlling what I earned. Controlling what I felt. Controlling what I thought about. I believed that sobriety meant discipline. I believed that it meant toughing it out. To me, sobriety meant setting my jaw and gritting through anything tough with a stoic sense of badassery.
I believed that life was supposed to be felt in full force. I believed that the entire point of sobriety was to teach us how to be able to stay in discomfort. In effect, this meant that I taught myself to tolerate discomfort.
And this was a terrible mistake to make.Read More