Ep. 58: Friends

This week, we answer a letter from a woman who's wondering about her friendships. What do friendships actually look like as an adult? Do they look like an episode of Friends, or something else? How do Friends fit into our lives as we get older? And how the hell do you make new friends? Meadow and Laura both talk about the shifts in their friendships over the years, what people tend to think vs. the reality, and where friends fit into their life now.

Ep. 57: "It's Not That Bad"

Alt. episode title: "Examine What You Tolerate". This week, we recount times when we've told ourselves "It's not that bad" when in reality, it was that bad--and actually a lot worse. Why do we do that? What's the price? And how can you be onto yourself before you dig yourself into a too-deep hole?

Ep. 56: Digital Minimalism

"Philip Morris just wanted your lungs; the App Store wants your soul." - Bill Maher, 2018. This week, we explore the concept of Digital Minimalism, as described in Cal Newport's new book of the same title, the significant changes we've both made in response, the early results we've seen, as well as some of the open questions and fears we each have. This isn't about hating on tech (we love it!) but rather understanding the real impact of how we are now "connected", making choices based on what you value most, crushing some of the myths of being an online entrepreneur and "needing" social media, and deciding how you really want to spend your life.

Music by Izzy DeVor.

Ep. 55: The Price of Giving a Shit

As a culture, we tend to glorify the idea of chasing your passion. We've all heard the adage, "Find something you love and you'll never work another day in your life." What we don't hear about all that often, though, is the real price of giving a shit about your work.

This week, we answer a letter from "Basic Millennial." He's at a crossroads, between jobs, trying to figure out how he can do something he really loves and finds meaning in, while also being a breadwinner.

Ep. 54 The One About Anger

Meet Anger: one of the five core emotions, and also one of the most demonized and misunderstood. This week, we take a deep dive into what emotions actually are, what anger exists for, and why it is so critical to your sense of self and emotional health.

Music by Izzy DeVor

Ep. 53: Survival Mode or Drama Mama?

"Survival mode is supposed to be a phase that helps save your life. It is not meant to be how you live." - Michele Rosenthal. So why is it that we tend to throw ourselves into that mode, long after survival is not an issue? We've got answers! This week we unpack how to tell the difference between actual survival mode and a drama loop and why you might be thriving on "surviving".

Music by Izzy DeVor

Ep. 52: Impostor Syndrome

Ahhh, Impostor Syndrome. The hidden affliction of...maybe, everyone? We break it down, talk about when we've felt it, why, how it's stopped us from moving forward, and how you can work with it so it stops stopping you.

Photo: Laura in a Costco (if you want to know the backstory, listen!).
Music by Izzy DeVor.

Ep. 51: The Conversation You Need to Stop Having

Is there a conversation you've been having for waaaaay too long? (There is, we promise.) This week, we talk about the conversations we want to stop having, and what happens when you get stuck in a loop without realizing it.

Also: Laura meets capital R resistance and Meadow goes to visit David Whyte the day after Mary Oliver passes.

Music by Izzy DeVor.

Ep. 50: Building Your Worthy Backbone

This week, we recap what happened during a girls weekend in Big Sur together. Highlights include Murder Mountain, Marie Kondo, 67 pounds of coffee, and collage making (#nerdalert). But not just any collage. We did what Meadow teaches as part of her course, The Worthy Project--a collage that drastically upended her life the first time she did it. It's a specific formula and we'll give you a fly-on-the-wall view of how we constructed ours, how it works, and how you can build your own worthy backbone.

Ep. 48: Non-Negotiables!

Do you have things you’re committed to doing more or less daily that keep you sane and functional? Weeeell, you should. We all need them. And this episode might just give you permission to claim your non-negotiables. We talk about ours, why they matter, and how they fit into our day.

What does this have to do with John Travolta jazzercizing in short-short shorts? Nothing! But it’s a glorious image to behold, no?

Ep. 49: The Real You

TODAY IS OUR ONE YEAR BIRTHDAY! HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO SPIRITUALISH! Okay, that aside, this week's episode is about letting the real you be seen. We answer a letter from a woman who isn't sure how to come to terms with who she was in the past, or if she really wants or needs to. She fears the people in her life would be shocked and scatter if they knew what she was like in her drinking days--she's not even sure *she* can accept that person, either. We discuss. And, for inquiring minds, we also discuss Laura's new way of eating, her hellish week of detox, and why she decided to kick grains and sugar.

Ep. 47: Who, What, Why

Welcome to 2019! For the new year, we answer a letter from a woman who can't seem to find her "why" to quit drinking. So, we pose some questions for her and for all of us to ask to get real clarity on just about anything.

Ep. 45: Into The Dark

As we approach the darkest and shortest day of the year, we talk about the necessity and value of the dark. Emotionally, seasonally, culturally, and psychologically, we tend to avoid the dark at all costs. But what if we could embrace it, instead? We talk about Laura's deep fear of winter, of the mystical meaning of darkness, and how we might look at it all a little bit differently.

Ep. 44: Fantasy Island

So, we all have fantasies. Big dreams. Ideas about what life would be like if the past or the future were different, better. This week, we talk about some surprising ways our fantasies have really hurt us and what the cost of keeping them alive can be.

Ep. 43: Groundhog Day One

This week, we answer a letter from a woman who is sick of seeing Day One in her sobriety. So how do we REALLY stop doing the things we no longer want to do? Does counting days matter, or not? Why? We share our own experiences, of course, and give you big questions to ask yourself to get to the bottom of the Day One Groundhog Day cycle.

Music by Izzy DeVor.

Ep. 41: Should I Stay or Should I Go?

It may be the hardest question we all face at some point: do you stay (in the relationship, the job, the city), or do you go? In this episode, we respond to a letter from a woman who's having second thoughts about her decision to divorce, break down our own experience, and offer a way to help her (and you) make a decision.

Ep. 40: What Does Your Body Want?

Our bodies speak very clearly about what we want (and don't) if we're willing to listen. With the holidays approaching, many of us get anticipate overwhelm, anxiety, and exhaustion. So this week we offer some simple guidance to figure out how you want to approach them.

Ep. 39: The "Please Like Me" Discount

This week, we continue the money conversation and talk about the phenomenon of the "please like me" discount. We do it with work. We do it in relationships. And it never, ever, works out well. If you're guilty of discounting your worth, you're gonna want to listen up.