Accidental success doesn’t exist.
No one accidentally pays off their debt.
Or writes a best-seller.
No one accidentally runs a marathon.
Or loses a hundred pounds.
No one accidentally becomes the President.
Or treks across Antarctica.
But accidental defeat happens every day. It is the product of unconsciousness. It’s the result of not paying attention. Of closing our eyes. Of sleep walking. Of being on auto pilot.
It’s the result of multi-tasking ourselves through a scattered and non-focused life. It’s what happens when we aren’t paying attention.
Consciousness is critical for making a big change and for creating lasting success. And I’m not just talking about a daily check-in with yourself. Or a weekly journal entry on a chart.
I’m talking about actually inhabiting your life, eyes wide open, on every level. Through every moment.
I’m talking about deliberately noticing what you are doing. And why. I’m talking about being interested in your life. Curious about yourself.
Living your life as though it matters. To you.
When we have a conscious relationship with money, we check our bank balances. Daily. We look at our receipts. We notice how much we actually just spent at the grocery store. We know what we have and what we can afford. We know our own thoughts and feelings about our purchases. We are mindful and respectful of the money we have. We understand the value of our money.
When we have a conscious relationship with our bodies, we know the difference between the physical and the emotional cues that we navigate daily. We know what physical hunger feels like and the difference between the real deal and the almost impeccable emotional-counterfeit. We are mindful of our food choices and about the quantities that we eat. We are interested in the ingredients in our food and how our bodies react to them.
When we have a conscious relationship with ourselves we notice what’s going on. We notice our thoughts. Our emotions. Our triggers. Our compulsions. Our habits. Our justifications. Our motivations.
We can’t expect to make big changes in our life if we’re only occupying a small percentage of it. We actually have to be there to make this work. To create this work.
And we’ve got to be fascinated enough with our own lives to be willing to be captivated by it.
And through this captivation. This fascination. You can learn to understand yourself. You can learn to forgive yourself. You can learn to fall in love with the only thing that you really have. You.