Boundaries, Personal Development, Self-Worth, Relationships, Communication & Response, Narcissistic Behavior
Meadow DeVor
5 Clues to Spot Gaslighting in Conversation

Narcissists use subtle gaslighting tactics that sound normal but leave you doubting yourself. From guilt trips to silent control, this blog breaks down 5 ways they manipulate conversations—and how to protect your truth. If you’ve ever felt worse after talking with them, this explains why.

Boundaries, Personal Development, Relationships
Meadow DeVor
3 Facial Clues That Expose a Narcissist

Today, I’ll show you 3 facial clues that narcissists can’t hide, explain why your instincts alert you to these signs, and, since Meghan Markle is a woman often labeled as narcissistic, we’ll examine whether these red flags appear on her face—or if they’re just a coincidence.

Boundaries, Relationships, Self-Worth
Meadow DeVor
When the Narcissist Lies to You... Do This

When you're dealing with a narcissist, spotting their lies and exposing the truth can save you from years of manipulation, stress, and emotional abuse. Learn 3 simple questions that expose their lies, what you need to say to always get the truth, and the one word that unravels their whole act.

Boundaries, Relationships, Self-Worth
Meadow DeVor
3 Signs an Avoidant is a Narcissist in Disguise

How do you know if someone has an avoidant attachment style, or if you’re actually dealing with a narcissist in disguise? Today, I’ll share simple ways to tell if an avoidant is actually a narcissist in disguise, real life examples of how to spot the difference, and simple strategies to empower you in any situation.

Boundaries, Relationships, Self-Worth
Meadow DeVor
5 Mind Games Narcissists Play

The mind games of a narcissist can be difficult to spot, and if you don't understand them, you could lose your job, your family, or the relationships you love most. Today, I'll share 5 mind games that narcissists play, real life examples of how to spot them, and simple strategies to empower you in any situation.

This Seems Hard... Because It Is.

This Seems Hard... Because It Is.

I have a love/hate relationship with my yoga teacher. She is so sweet and cute. She speaks fluent Zen. She practically floats from inner-peace.

Yesterday, in her serene "Rock-a-bye Baby" sing-song tone, she asked us to hold a lunge, for what seemed like 103 minutes, while twisting our bodies in the opposite direction that a human is meant to be bent, sweat dripping off our noses, balancing on the tip of our right big toe while 'smiling with our eyes.'

And right when I was about to give up, yell profanities at her, or try to start her on fire with my retinas, she said:

If this seems really hard... it's because it is. 

Immediately, I felt relief. I held the pose and relaxed into the fact that it was just hard. And it was supposed to be hard. I thought it was so interesting that I thought I couldn't hold the pose for one more second and that I was willing to walk away and give up.

Until I knew that it was supposed to be hard.

And with that knowledge, I was able to keep going.

How To Love Money

How To Love Money

Do you love money?

Are you sure?

If you're anything like me, or my clients, we've actually had to learn how to love money.

I used to think I loved money because I could spend it. I loved what money could buy. I loved the stuff that could be purchased with it. I loved the adventures that money could take me on. I loved the idea of shopping or spending.

So many of my clients have this same belief. Money is only good for what it can buy. Money is as good as what can be purchased with it.

To make it really simple.

The way I loved money was to get rid of it. And fast.

And, this.

Is not love.

A Good Why

A Good Why

I want to make more money.
I want to feel sexy.
I want to lose weight.
I want to get out of debt.
I want to have a boyfriend.
I want to keep a journal.
I want to change.
I want to tell the truth.

Everybody wants something. I want something. You want something.  We want to be more. Or to be less. We want to have more... or have less... of something.

Most of us know what we want.

But very few of us take the time to figure out WHY we want what we want.

And The Why is only thing that will determine whether or not we will get what we want. 

Do you want more money? Tell me in one sentence why.

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What's Done Can Be Undone.

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What's Done Can Be Undone.

A few hours ago I had written the most brilliant blog post ever. It was witty. It was inspiring. It was personal. It was honest. It had all the good stuff that blog posts should have. 

It would have dazzled you. 

It was titled, ironically, "What's Done Can be Undone"... just like this one. It was about the decisions we make and how we dupe ourselves into believing a story that we are stuck with our decisions. It was about learning to find the courage and freedom to change our minds. It was about making choices with our present lives that are valid to our current selves... instead of living with past choices out of regret, guilt, or fear of disappointment. 

And of course, I have no proof of the genius-ness that I shared on the page... because instead of clicking 'save and publish', I accidentally pressed delete.

If I Had More Money... I'd Just... Have More Money.

A lot of people believe they'd be happier if they had more money.

It seems logical... right?

I mean, doesn't it seem obvious that if you won the lotto, or got a raise, or inherited an unexpected windfall of moolah you'd probably be happier? Or, if you had more money in your checking account, or savings account, or less debt, you'd be happier, right?

Believe it or not... if you had more money.

You'd just have more money.

You wouldn't be happier.
You wouldn't be thinner.
Your marriage wouldn't be better.
Your kids wouldn't want to spend more time with you.
You wouldn't find your true love.
You wouldn't be more loved.
You wouldn't be more popular.

You wouldn't be anything other than you... with more money.