Most people don’t realize they’re arguing with a narcissist until they’re already stuck—trapped in endless conversations that go nowhere. Today, I’ll break down the two levels of this dynamic: the low-level game that pulls you into endless arguments and frustration, and the high-level power move that ends the game for good.

Narcissists use three specific tests to decide if you’re someone they can control. The key isn’t just spotting these tests—it’s knowing how to fail them on purpose, so narcissists get the clear message that you’re not a good target. Today, I’ll break down the three subtle tests narcissists use to find their targets, share real-life examples of how these tests play out, and one simple tool you can use to fail their target test—in any situation.

Today, I’ll share the five rules that anyone can use to outsmart a narcissist.

Learn the biggest mistakes people make with narcissists, why certain types of boundaries backfire, and a surprising way to rethink boundaries that will change how you approach them forever—giving you a powerful tactic to stop a narcissist without saying a word.